I hope I'm relationship first, but I believe I've been using some coercive tactics lately, spilled over from working in the school system. So I have to reset myself.
Which would you like to be?
Non-coercive.
Are you expecting obedience from your children?
Somedays yes. But I try to use collaboration. Instead of making demands, I ask "how long do you need?" or "when can this happen?" The other day, without asking, I came upstairs from gaming, and my 12 year old was cleaning the bathroom counter. Using my scrub daddy.
What does relationship first mean to you?
Focusing on our relationship first. Connecting foremost, and not being coercive for forceful. `
Which type of parent are you?
I hope I'm relationship first, but I believe I've been using some coercive tactics lately, spilled over from working in the school system. So I have to reset myself.
Which would you like to be?
Non-coercive.
Are you expecting obedience from your children?
Somedays yes. But I try to use collaboration. Instead of making demands, I ask "how long do you need?" or "when can this happen?" The other day, without asking, I came upstairs from gaming, and my 12 year old was cleaning the bathroom counter. Using my scrub daddy.
What does relationship first mean to you?
Focusing on our relationship first. Connecting foremost, and not being coercive for forceful. `